Making Your Dreams Come True at Mid-Life

At mid-life, many of us find ourselves at a crossroads. Life as we’ve known it starts to take on a different flavour. The idea of a mid-life crisis is known to describe someone in their 40s who sensing the older years ahead might behave in ways that seek to rekindle the feelings of freedom from their youth—buying that sports car, having that affair, or finally doing the things they put off due to life’s responsibilities. 

For women, mid-life often means an increase in responsibilities, balancing a career with raising kids, caring for parents becoming frail, and navigating the symptoms of peri-menopause. This period can also bring significant physical, emotional, and psychological changes.

Women speak of being tired, losing their mojo, gaining weight, experiencing unexpected feelings of rage, feeling invisible, and not heard. The impact on a woman’s life can be deeply felt, challenging the identity she has carved for herself.

As women mature through their mid-life years, they may need to rethink what’s important now and into the future, which may mean letting go of aspects of their life that have been foundational. In the arc of a woman’s life, the mid-life years can be likened to the season of autumn. She has grown and flourished throughout her spring and summer and is now maturing, ready to harness her strengths and prepare for her future as she changes and grows into her elder years ahead.

Mid-life is a threshold for change. The period from the 40s to 60s is a time of maturing. Some people experience it dramatically, while for others, it’s a subtle, natural result of growing older. Our ideas and knowledge progress and evolve, and we may have new dreams to bring forward into the world.

It can mean a courageous exploration of our lives. Getting clear on where we have limited ourselves, where we’ve been holding back to keep the peace,  where we feel pressured to toe the line and to please others.  It’s still a reality for many women that society pressures them to be sexual and available for other’s needs. The mid-life years can be a time of letting go of meeting the expectations of others as it’s just becoming too hard to keep it up. The inner drive to be true to ourselves comes further to the surface. And with that, the power to speak our truth even if it’s risky. 

I recently encountered a woman with an established career, someone respected in her field, who has raised a family, and is living with stability and freedom. Recently, she completed a course of study in a different field, pursuing a new interest. Though she didn't have clear plans to change her career, she harboured a desire and tender hope for something new.

This is a person who’s identity isn't fettered by mainstream society, as she is someone who often steps outside the expected norms. However, embracing a mid-life career change has been more challenging than expected. 

Something in her seeks to be expressed, something new wants to be born into the world. A creation close to her heart is gestating. It’s coming from a place inside her that is creative. 

It’s not so much a mental creation as it is an inner knowing. It’s special to her. Bringing her idea into the world might seem easy to an observer. For someone nurturing a new seed within, this can be scary and risky. The tender new seed being nurtured into being needs courage with oodles of love and acceptance from its creator. 

Bringing this idea into the world requires courage and love and careful steps to maintain an inner sense of safety. 

When we are afraid to bring our creations into the world, we fear being misunderstood, ridiculed, or rejected. This fear often stems from childhood experiences of rejection and societal expectations of fitting in. We may hide our deepest desires to keep them safe. They are connected to our vulnerable selves and need to be protected and tenderly care for, like we would protect and care for a child.

What is needed here is self-awareness from our adult selves. We need to courageously and lovingly look within to explore what is happening. Welcoming our younger selves to safely speak their truth, feel their feelings, and be accepted creates a new foundation based on love rather than fear. This helps to heal and release inner censorship, and strengthen our capacity to show up and share our truth with the world. 

Mid-life is a powerful time of transition and self-discovery. By embracing change, nurturing self-awareness, and understanding our deeper desires, we can make our dreams come true at mid-life and prepare to move into our older years with new found purpose and strength. This takes courage and is something to be celebrated.

Katia Krassas 

If you’re looking for support and are interested in how I can help, please reach out.

At midlife, I embarked on a healing journey that involved overcoming trauma, letting go of people-pleasing, and finding my voice. I changed my career to become a Holistic Counsellor, Healer, and Nature Connection Facilitator. Now, I help women connect to their inner power and feel comfortable in their own skin.

See my bio here: natureconnectionempowerment


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